Monthly Archives: December 2014

Denial is a powerful thing, especially on Christmas morning!

When did you stop believing in Santa? How did it happen for you? We all have our stories and memories of this potentially devastating event in our lives. For our family, this year was another close call, or was it? Our daughter just turned eleven and she still believes. Although, she claims the tooth fairy is a giant hoax. The Easter Bunny and Santa still have credibility apparently. She has asked us questions about it the last couple of years. Many of the kids in her class are aware of the cold hard truth. She chooses to believe that Santa is still here to drop in late at night when we are sleeping and go through our stuff, eat our food and leave us some gifts to open in the morning (kind of creepy when you think about it). Hubby and I have discussed whether or not to burst her bubble but the questions always come up close to Christmas and we just don’t have the heart. With that said, we don’t “lie” either. When she questions us we pull the classic psychologist parenting out “what do you think?” “Do you think Santa really exists?” It seems to work in the short run, it makes her ask herself is she “really” wants to know. This year we came close and I thought it might actually happen. She came home and said “Mom, some of the kids at school say that the parents give us the gifts”. I think I came up with a good age appropriate response for her. I told her that it doesn’t really matter if there is an actual man in a red suit that comes in the night and drops off gifts, because that is not what Christmas is about {insert here what you think Christmas is about}. What matters is what Santa represents, what he symbolizes for us as a culture that celebrates Christmas. What matter most it that children continue to believe in that spirit and the transition into that Sants-less belief is even more important than the belief in Santa itself. So, this morning as you wake up and realize that you left the wrapping out and your smarty pants kid starts questioning why Santa would use our gift labels just tell them it’s the spirit that counts, not the wrapping.

Merry Christmas Everyone!

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Patience for Sale?

Anyone know where I can get some patience? I am NOT a patient person. Probably because of my ADHD or whatever but it doesn’t really matter I am not a patient person. I am NOT patient with electronics. I have been known to throw electronics when they get me going. I threw a knife at a fire alarm once. In my defense I was pregnant so those hormones were raging. I probably would have done it anyway, but I am sticking with pregnancy for that one. I am patient with my kids though, most of the time. That’s good, right?! However, I don’t think my kids would agree… I’ll have to ask them… They will probably laugh their buts off when I do, but trust me I am more patient than they realize when it comes to them, defiantly. I think I must also get this impatience from my mother, maybe it’s genetic. I remember times as a child when my mother was very impatient, frustrated easily. She was kind of famous for it in our circle of friends. There was once an incident with a banana that I won’t get into. I don’t know, it’s probably both learned and genetic. My impatience also affects my life in positive ways; I don’t wait to be asked. It’s where I get my ambition and drive. It keeps me going when things get tough in life. I am not the kind of person to wait around for life to happen to me. I guess my impatience is a big part of how I got to where I am in life so I suppose it’s not all bad. I think I am going to go meditate now, but first I am going to throw my satellite receiver. Peace and Tranquility to you my friends…

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Why Starting a Business is Like Taking a New Lover

I started my first venture about eight years ago now. I was so excited, the newness of it and the excitement of building something myself! It was truly a wonderful time. It’s still wonderful; don’t get me wrong, it’s just… different. Like the start of a new relationship. That first kiss, when you are all filled with excitement and the future and what is going to happen next! Well it’s really kind of the same thing. I still love my business and much like a personal relationship we have had a lot (A LOT) of ups and downs. But we have hung in there together and persevered and like sitting next to your partner of eight years you have to keep the magic alive! Growth is key or complacency can sneak in real sneaky like. Maybe you like your relationships nice and comfortable with little to no change, just all chill and easy. That’s great! But if you’re anything like me, it’s the magic that keeps you alive, motivated and interested. You need that other girl/competitor to come in and shake things up, keep you on your toes. Make sure your dressing all pretty and putting your makeup on. Think of that new business similar to yours that just started up as a challenge, what would you do to keep your man/woman? Would you do whatever it takes or just give up and not even bother anymore. My best advice if you are thinking of starting up a business, think of what kind of person you are when you are in a relationship with another person, are you really ready for that hard work and long term commitment? Oh and by the way, if you get really good, you can take on a new lover or two as well! Hooray!!

Kissing-booth

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I’ve Decided I like my ADHD Brain

I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult about three years ago. Looking back upon my life the diagnosis really made me think “oh ya that’s why…ok”. You see I am a female and I went through my entire childhood with teachers telling me that I need to focus and stop talking all the time in class. The diagnosis did relieve a lot of anxiety about who I am, how I think and why I think what I think. Another big help besides finding out I actually had ADHD was the huge community support I found out there for adults (and kidos) with this condition. My son was diagnosed as a child and without opening up that chapter to your all right now, the knowledge of what has been going on my entire life was truly an epiphany. The reason I even thought about the possibility that “I” had ADHD was I was at yet another doctor appointment to discuss the many years of struggle with my weight. The doctor asked casually “have you ever been tested for ADHD?” No, I hadn’t even thought of that! though looking back it’s like Duh lady, have you met yourself? Distracted, tick, unfocused, tick, hyper focused at times, tick, impulsive, tick, inattention to details, tick. Ok so that’s all the “bad stuff” right? What about the awesomeness though?! Able to think outside the box, come up with amazing ideas, some of which are ridiculous but awesome none the less, my ability to see the big picture, how I can make people excited about an idea, I can sell ice to an Eskimo as they say. Most of all I feel like my brain allows me to see things that “others” don’t see. My ADHD can give me distraction but it also allows me to see the beauty in life that sometimes others miss. I can be quirky and interrupt conversations, but I can promise you what I do say is always “interesting” though it may not seem so at the time… I took medication for a while and it does help me stay focused and be less impulsive but the more I think about it the more I fell like those attributes make me who I am, it’s 100% me and that’s not bad. I do think that taking medicine is good and I will probably take it again, but I am enjoying my ADHD brain right now, all the highs and the lows that comes with it. So please if you ever hear from a child that has been diagnosed and is despondent about it tell them, yes there are struggles and yes there are hurdles you will face but man buckle up because it is going to be an awesome ride kid! In the words of the great comedian Gerry Dee “Attention Deficit is a skill AND a Disorder”.

Attention Deficit is a Skill AND a Disorder.

Attention Deficit is a Skill AND a Disorder.

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